Such is often the case with those of us who have ADHD...we start some new project, filled with hope and inspiration and, above all, determination that THIS time, we'll follow through on it, we'll stick it out, we won't just drop it off or drift away from it partway through.
...and then, a matter of hours/days/weeks later, it falls away from us, just like everything else has before. We feel bad, and associate that guilt with the project itself. We never want to touch it again, lest we be reminded of our failure. Sure, we move on to the next project...but with each new venture, the memory of our past failed attempts hounds us, making it harder and harder to believe in ourselves enough to get started again.
Well, hell.
I'm really forcing myself to write this post right now. I know that after I get this one done, the next one will be easier. The next after that, still easier. Eventually, I'll get back into the swing of things, until the next major guilt/avoidance blackout.
However...that blackout will be a little easier to recover from that this one was, and the next, easier than that. Provided I keep forcing myself to get back on the damn horse, I'll eventually get to a point where I'm able keep this thing going steadily with minimal effort. It'll become one of those ritual habits that you can ease into without a major investment of will power.
The important thing is not holding yourself to impossible standards. When you take an all-or-nothing attitude, you're going to get the "nothing" option pretty much every time. However, if you take an approach that expects and applauds gradual improvement, the sky's the limit.
However...that blackout will be a little easier to recover from that this one was, and the next, easier than that. Provided I keep forcing myself to get back on the damn horse, I'll eventually get to a point where I'm able keep this thing going steadily with minimal effort. It'll become one of those ritual habits that you can ease into without a major investment of will power.
The important thing is not holding yourself to impossible standards. When you take an all-or-nothing attitude, you're going to get the "nothing" option pretty much every time. However, if you take an approach that expects and applauds gradual improvement, the sky's the limit.
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